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What negative automatic thoughts are, how to recognise and overcome them

Some strategies to defeat 'thought ants' by improving emotional state and propensity to action

by Nicola Chighine*.

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In the previous article we introduced the concept of ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts) as the set of negative and dysfunctional thoughts that manifest themselves automatically in a person's mind, negatively influencing their emotional state, propensity for action and self-efficacy, until they become insurmountable obstacles to change.

We continue and conclude our description of the most frequent and dangerous thought ants here:

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The 'too late' ant: this limiting thought will tell us that we are out of time, it will shout at us that we are too late. This ant will try to convince us that we have missed a train that will never pass again: it is too late to open that business, we are too old to change jobs, we are too late for that investment. As if there were an absolute hourglass, a chosen meridian that inexorably marks a rigid and supreme time, and decrees, without any appeal, who is centred and who is not.

The solitary ant: as the name suggests, this is a type of ant that has surrendered to the belief that it has to face life's challenges alone. Out of metaphor, it is the haunting belief that we are the only ones with that particular problem, the only ones who are experiencing that particular critical situation and facing difficulties. It is a thought that consumes energy, hope, and blocks us from opening up to new connections, sharing and alliance building, which are essential to sustain change efforts. The world is full of lonely ants who have forgotten the ancestral power of connection.

The seer ant: you can imagine her with a picturesque turban on her head and a crystal ball in front of her. It is the dangerous and distorting tendency to project a hypothetical future on the basis of weak and fragmentary suppositions. Assumptions, if not critically analysed, become beliefs that create a reality that appears to be the only one possible in our heads. There is a particularly dangerous variant that tends to imagine the future by uncritically projecting the past, thus boycotting even the most sincere desire for change.

Psycho-formica: it occurs whenever we claim to know what others think and make it into absolute truth, without giving ourselves the chance to verify our intuitions. The situation is even more critical when the distorted reality we have created is tinged with negativity. An example? Every time we look at an expression on a colleague's face, a grimace for example, we automatically think 'well, he must be mad at me' or 'I said something wrong this time too' without investigating the real reason and consequently being able to correct the erroneous attribution of meaning.

How can we disinfect our minds from these fearsome ants?

Assuming that there are no magic formulas or shortcuts, that working on one's automatisms of thought takes time and willpower, and that we must allow for some setbacks, I propose three strategies:

The first strategy is 'observe and note'.

Listen carefully whenever one of these thoughts occurs. Write down your inner dialogue and the impact this has on your emotional state, energy and behaviour. The advice is to write down your thoughts on a dedicated medium, analogue or digital, this will help you keep track of all the ANTs, making it easier to read their evolution over time. It will be more immediate to identify any recurring patterns, i.e. matrices of depotential thinking that, from time to time, present themselves in different clothes.

The second is 'disprove the ant'.

This strategy consists of remembering and recording all the times the negative automatic thought turned out to be false. How many times was that negative thought unfounded? How many times did that negative, castrating projection fail to come true?

You will find that the percentage of pessimistic projections becoming real is incredibly low.

The third is 'put the ant on its stomach'.

Out of metaphor, it means replacing automatic negative thinking with mirror thinking. If, for example, the 'pole' ant, i.e. the belief that the world is polarised, were to appear, I would focus on seeing all the nuances present in that particular situation. It may help to use powerful questions such as:

If I can't get everything right away, what can I improve anyway?

What are the possibilities that I have not yet explored?

By expanding the target into smaller parts, how does the scenario change? What new solutions can I imagine?

* Senior Consultant at Newton SpA

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